Like relationships with people, your relationship with food has needs. It requires a good foundation, effort and ongoing attention identifying where areas need to be improved in order for it to serve you with everlasting happiness. There's plenty of cases of past baggage, broken trust and incompatibility which, for a lot of people with a bad relationship with food, seals the deal as a daily battle.
In this article, we are going to assist in identifying whether you have fallen victim to a bad relationship with food and how you can better that.
Our Equalution client Aileen aged 51 with a total loss of 15kgs showing age is no barrier and you don't need to forgo your lifestyle. Aileen has still been able to enjoy dine out events on a weekly basis, her favourite alcoholic beverages all in amongst a balanced diet with no missing out.
1. Does food give you anxiety:
As in heart racing, sweaty palms, thoughts at a million miles an hour, stress after stress, worst-case scenario after worst-case scenario type of anxiety! Is food the cause of this? If food is making you next-level freak out this is a strong indication of a bad and broken relationship with food that needs repair.
2. Do you have trust issues:
Do you have no faith in food or dieting to either 1) serve you any sort of content or 2) get you to your goals? There's a very strong correlation between people that have been 'burnt' in the past by food and not being able to instil any faith in it in the future. An example of this is a clean eating diet plan that is highly restrictive and requires a lot of dedication to adhere to but lacks a scientific basis of which results are not always seen. If a dieter has stuck to a restrictive plan such as this and sees no results then they're more likely to doubt food and it's ability to act as a vehicle to results.
3. Do you categorise food:
If you're looking at food deeming it as good or bad and dubbing certain types of food as off-limits, then this is another strong indicator of a bad relationship with food. This practice of food categorisation is also a very powerful cause for your whole life to be ruled by food. From a scientific perspective, the body doesn't recognise food in this way so neither should you.
4. Do you avoid food-related situations:
If social plans or work events that revolve around food cause instant panic and a thought process of thinking up a million and one excuses then your relationship with food might be in a poor state.
5. Do you see yourself as a ticking time bomb:
Do you feel as though you can't be around your favourite foods like chocolate, cakes, ice-cream, cheeses, chip and dip etc without it potentially leading into a full-blown eating fest? This lack of faith in yourself around certain foods and understanding your susceptibility to binge or lack control is a good indicator that you may not have a great relationship with food.
6. Do you always start tomorrow:
If you just can't seem to get it right with your diet and are constantly on and off making promises to start tomorrow, this practice is one that isn't considered normal or sustainable and questions your relationship with food.
7. Do you eat beyond fullness:
Eating till sickness and/or not being able to recognise and respond to body cues can be drawn back to your relationship with food. While the intention of food is that it either satisfies hunger, provides fuel or is to be enjoyed for taste and/ or satisfaction in and out of social scenes some people with a poor relationship with food either know two states of being: they can either not know when they're hungry and eat mindlessly or eat to the point of illness and self-loathing.
8. Are you extremely inconsistent:
Do you find yourself having days where you eat the world and feel a truckload of guilt or just not eat at all and feel like you've succeeded? If every day is constantly up and down in not only caloric intake but attitude to dieting then a reassessment of your relationship with food may very well be necessary.
9. Is food on your mind 24/7:
Are you forever thinking about food? While it's so normal to love meal times and look forward to particular foods, if you're thinking about food all day every day (literally) then this alone could speak volumes for your relationship with food. For a lot of people with a poor relationship with food they can find it extremely difficult to be at peace in a situation that does or even doesn't involve food given it consumes all their thoughts. This overconsumption of thoughts can demonstrate a relationship with food that needs work.
10. Do you see no solution:
If you're someone that sees no solution to your food woes then this in itself can demonstrate an underlying issue with food. If you see:
- Never being normal with food
- Never not thinking about food for a short period of time
- Never being able to stick to a diet
- Never stopping binging
- Never being able to go out and eat without anxiety
Then you may be fitting for requiring a deeper look and fixing your relationship with food.
How does Flexible Dieting help to build a better relationship with food?
Flexible dieting is the dieting method based on a scientific calculation of what your body requires in terms of protein, fats and carbs - uses foods of preference to meet these. Food is seen as not good nor bad but rather for how the body recognises it - as protein, fats and carbs. In shifting from a mindset that food is either good or bad, allowed or banned or for when dieting or not dieting this can ultimately lead to a better relationship with food through:
- Fewer anxieties surrounding what to eat and not eat
- Ability to be more flexible and dine out etc
- Fit in foods as they're felt like rather than saving it for an off day
- Maintaining a balanced diet and being able to have reasonable portions rather than going hard or going home
- Having more control over your daily diet and not feeling bound to rules
If you feel like you keep failing the issue may very well be a poor relationship with food. Our team are industry leaders in flexible dieting for body transformation success. Ask us today how you can better your relationship with food while giving your body the intake it needs, enjoying food you love and reaching your body goals.